Just Sayin'! is the place where I share thoughts and ponderings of my life from day to day. I have to admit there are times I have some profound thoughts pop into my head. I am the first to admit those are the ones that are divine words of wisdom that come from the Lord. Other times I have something light up my brain and I wonder where in the world did that come from? Those are usually the ones that can be attributed to my own mind games. After all, the mind's a terrible thing to waste. This is a page where I will be sharing some of those thoughts, reflections and ponderings.
Sometimes I share my thoughts about biblical questions. Other times I present ideas and ponderings about living in this crazy world of the 21st Century. There are also moments when I will share something that has transpired in my life causing me to stop and either smell the roses, or lie down and lick my wounds. Regardless, I don't share these thoughts in order to start an argument or prove a point. I merely intend for them to be food for thought - something for the windmill of your brain to chew on for a bit. The world in general has lost the ability to thoughtfully consider, ponder and contemplate the views and opinions of others without taking offense. I'm not an expert in much of anything. But that has never stopped me from having an opinion. Many folks today don't value any opinion other than their own. That of course borders on being either a narcissist or a socio-path. From a societal perspective that is the foundational premise of bigotry and intolerance. It's the ultimate killer of relationships - the driving force that destroys entire civilizations!
So, as you read my opinions, my thoughts and my ponderings below, take them for the purpose of which they are actually intended. The educator in me wants you to contemplate and reflect on the topics presented. Then, after thoughtful and reflective consideration, you can draw your own conclusion. Hopefully, you'll arrive at a personal, more informed opinion that is uniquely your own. I used to always tell my students to "Engage their brain before engaging their mouth!" That comes through careful consideration and contemplation of the topic at hand. I hope you enjoy my ramblings, in Just Sayin'!
Lessons Learned Through the Journey of “Divorce!”
A Personal Reflection! “Just Sayin’!”
Life’s not fair! Get used to it, get over it and move on with your life!
It’s not easy! So don’t try to rush anything. Healing is a process. Take your time!
The greatest loneliness you will experience comes from living with someone who disregards your worth and shows it by being indifferent to your values and needs.
Your emotional health is paramount above the marriage.
Your spiritual health is paramount above your emotional health.
It’s okay to be alone, living your life in the solitude of singleness is much better than living in abuse or neglect.
And, eating most of your meals alone isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Carrying on a conversation with yourself is actually rather pleasant. It’s probably the only time you’ll have your own, or anybody else’s undivided attention.
Don’t go to your pastor for marriage advice, in most cases he’s the self-appointed, spiritual judge, jury and executioner of your life.
Find a competent licensed counselor that will focus on your emotional health before proceeding to a marriage counselor. Did I mention you should never attempt to go to your pastor for counseling?
Want to read more? Click on the file below to download a pdf version of "Lessons Learned Through the Journey of Divorce."
I just saw an article where the baseball legend Bryce Harper’s expected salary offer will be somewhere in the $300,000,000 range for an extended contract. Wow! Now being a retired public school teacher, I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around the reality of that kind of money. After all, when I first started teaching I was given a salary of $10,500 per year. When I retired after 28 years of service, with a double Master’s Degree and over 300 semester hours of additional graduate-level coursework and in-service training I had worked my salary up to top of the pay scale, around the $70,000 per year range.
Toward the end of my career there was a push for teachers to be paid according to merit. Not on their merit, but on the contrived evaluation of their student’s performance. Merit Pay could never begin to fairly compensate an educator for the unique intricacies involved in teaching a child. A Merit System can’t address the myriad of mitigating factors associated with a student’s academic performance. But yet, there are those politically motivated proponents trying to force a Merit Pay System onto all teachers based on the performance of someone else. Seriously? These people are nuts!
So, when I see a legendary athlete being offered hundreds of millions of dollars to play a game, I find it just a bit over the top. In fact, I find it audaciously perverse. In my mind it only goes to prove that it’s time to enact a Merit Pay System for every professional athlete. After all, they’re the ones getting paid for their legendary performance. If they are a superstar, then the skies the limit as to what they can make. If they have a stellar year, their pocketbook gets stuffed to the max. If they have an off year, well, they just better hope they put some of that extra stuffing in their bank account from the previous year. Here’s my Professional Athlete Merit Pay Proposal. I’m using baseball as an example, but this would work for any sport.
Just Sayin' Professional Athlete Merit Pay Proposal
Every player gets a guaranteed base salary of $75,000 a year. When he performs he gets bonus pay. When he fails there is a mandatory deduction. At the end of the season, if he’s performed well enough there will be a bonus check. Here’s the breakdown:
Bonus breakdown for Fielding
For every play resulting in an “Out” +$1,000
For every double play he is a part of +$2,000
For every triple play he is a part of +$3,000
For every error committed -$1,000
For every error that leads to an opposing run -$2,000
Bonus Breakdown for Hitting/Base Running
Batter earning a Walk +$1,000
Batter hit by a Pitch +$1,500
Getting on base by an Error +$1,000
A Sacrifice Fly Out +$500
A Sacrifice Fly Out that Scores a Run +$1,000
A Base Hit Single +$1,000
A Double +$1,500
A Triple +$2,500
A Home Run +$3,000
A Game Winning Hit of any type +$3,500
Striking out swinging -$1,000
Striking out on a Called Third Strike -$1,500
Hitting into any Out -$1,000
Hitting into a Double Play -$1,500
Hitting into a Triple Play -$5,000
Hitting into a Fielder’s Choice -$750
Stealing a Base +$750
Scoring a Run +$1,000
Sacrifice Bunt +$500
Suicide Squeeze Bunt +$1,500
Walk Off Game Winning Hit +$3,000
End of Year Batting Average per Point (.001) +$1,000
Bonus Breakdown for Pitching
Every Strike Thrown +$150
Every Ball Thrown outside of the Strike Zone -$125
Hitting a Batter -$300
Every Out Recorded +$200
Every Inning Pitched +$300
Every Run Allowed -$1,000
Every Baulk -$1,500
A Baulk that Allows a Run -$3,500
Maintaining an ERA under 1.0 per Game +$2,000
Maintaining an ERA under 2.0 per Game +$1,500
Maintaining an ERA over 2.0 per Game -$1,500
Every Win +$3,500
Every Loss -$3,500
Every Lead Surrendered -$1,500
Every Single Allowed -$500
Every Double Allowed -$750
Every Triple Allowed -$1,000
Every Home Run Allowed -$1,500
Every Run Allowed -$1,500
So, with all of that being considered, if you take the likes of a Bryce Harper and apply the merit pay system to the statistics he accumulated in 2018, he would have earned somewhere around the $750,000 range (10 times more than a highly paid teacher). Merit Pay for professional athletes; it all makes sense! Much more feasible than placing teachers on a Merit Pay system based on all the mitigating factors they have no control over! Just think about how much more affordable going to the ballpark would be for us middle class fans! You might even be able to afford a coke and a hotdog! Just Sayin’!
One of the gifts I was blessed to nurture throughout my life is the gift of humor. I've always had an ability to look at the humorous side of many situations. Often times, that has gotten me in a bit of trouble, especially during those formative years when teachers didn't enjoy having a class clown to contend with in a class filled with adolescents. However, my humorous ramblings were never intended to be disruptive, at least most of the time. There were times things just popped out of my mouth that were a play on words or casting a bit of laughter into a situation.
My humor was always subtle. I love sharing puns. Through the years I relished the role of being the token punologist of nearly every group or gathering. Puns actually require deep thinking and spring forth from the deepest recesses of the brain. That part of the brain, immediately above the "Brain Stem" is the part that I refer to as the "Pun-ebelem!"
Punology is truly an artform - almost a long-lost artform. Most teachers hate it; most leaders despise it; and the majority of the world just doesn't "get it." But for those of us that do "get it," the practice of punology turns into a constant challenge. It's a way of life, a way of viewing the world from a lighter side. It's the way our brains operate. It inspires creative thinking, while engaging our competitive nature. After all, there's not a punologist out there that doesn't want to have the final word in a pun-contest. With that thought, I will leave you with this one. Did you hear about the optometrist who fell into his lense-grinding machine? He made a "spectacle" of himself! Just Sayin'!